Eight Things You Need to Know About Divorce and Marriage by
Laurie’s guest this week is Cynthia Rubin, family law attorney. Join them as they clink plastic glasses and have an honest conversation about divorce, the law, and how you can protect yourself before, during and after. Does the judge care about the cause of your divorce? Why getting support is so important. What to do if you are down and out, broke, and feeling trapped. And what makes for a good divorce? Read More
Friday, August 8, 2008
Don't burn daylight
Don't burn daylight
Grieving doesn't have a time frame on it, but life does. Whether you realize it or not, life is marching on. There comes a time when you have to accept the fact and say, "I've got to get on with my life, I've got to get on with raising my children, I've got to get on with putting things together where I can be a happy, meaningful, productive member of society." Find a way to put one foot in front of the other and move forward.
Grieving doesn't have a time frame on it, but life does. Whether you realize it or not, life is marching on. There comes a time when you have to accept the fact and say, "I've got to get on with my life, I've got to get on with raising my children, I've got to get on with putting things together where I can be a happy, meaningful, productive member of society." Find a way to put one foot in front of the other and move forward.
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Get out of denial
Get out of denial
Ask yourself: Do you really want this marriage, or are you hanging onto it out of fear? If being alone is a scarier thought than staying in a broken marriage, you're letting fear make your decisions. Are you mourning the loss of what your marriage was, or what you thought marriage would be?
Ask yourself: Do you really want this marriage, or are you hanging onto it out of fear? If being alone is a scarier thought than staying in a broken marriage, you're letting fear make your decisions. Are you mourning the loss of what your marriage was, or what you thought marriage would be?
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Be an example for your children
Be an example for your children
What kind of mom do you think your kids are experiencing when you're sitting around and crying and looking over your shoulder at what was instead of what is?
What kind of mom do you think your kids are experiencing when you're sitting around and crying and looking over your shoulder at what was instead of what is?
Quotes For The Day,
Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.
Anais Nin:
Anais Nin:
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
A Day Of First's
Sundays can be the longest day if you are divorced or even widowed. Kids are grown, they live far away, they are visiting their fathers, or they are just busy with their own fa miles.
I never really understood this concept till it happened to me. Now I understood how my father felt after my mothers death. Don't get me wrong I called and spoke to my father each Sunday for sure along with other days of the week. But Sunday was eatch in stone I would either call him or he would call me. It seemed to make his day a bit easier and gave him something to look forward to as well each week.
This past Sunday a dear friend called and asked if I would like to go out for lunch to Old County Buffet in Mankato. I had never been there. So I was very excited to try something new. I also had never been to Mankato as well. So on the drive down it was great to see new country side, towns, and a bit of history. The drive took us along the Minnesota river. Some these towns had so many Queen Victoria homes dating back to the early 1800's.
After lunch we went to the mall. It felt good to get out a walk, window shop and visit along the way. Each of us suffer from fibromyaliga so this was good exercise to walk and take our time. Even a few practical jokes where played on each other along the way as well.
On the drive home we took a detour through New Ulm. This was another town I had never been to as well. It was a wonderful drive along the country side.
New Ulm is a German settle town. There, where miles and miles of Queen Victoria Area homes. The stain glass windows, design of each home was unique. There where no 2 homes alike. Many of the homes have been listed on the National Registry as historic landmarks. We took our time stopping frequently to stretch and walk along the sidewalks to get a good look at them. There where even a few city monuments we took in.
Time flew by so fast it had been several hours since lunch so astopped for an ice cream cone came at a good time. By the time we made it home nearly 8 hours had past.
It was an amazing day for me as I had experienced so many new items, exploreing new towns and traveled roads I had never been on before. I will cherish this day for many months to come. And suggest to many of you do the same don't just sit at home looking at 4 walls get out and experience life.
I never really understood this concept till it happened to me. Now I understood how my father felt after my mothers death. Don't get me wrong I called and spoke to my father each Sunday for sure along with other days of the week. But Sunday was eatch in stone I would either call him or he would call me. It seemed to make his day a bit easier and gave him something to look forward to as well each week.
This past Sunday a dear friend called and asked if I would like to go out for lunch to Old County Buffet in Mankato. I had never been there. So I was very excited to try something new. I also had never been to Mankato as well. So on the drive down it was great to see new country side, towns, and a bit of history. The drive took us along the Minnesota river. Some these towns had so many Queen Victoria homes dating back to the early 1800's.
After lunch we went to the mall. It felt good to get out a walk, window shop and visit along the way. Each of us suffer from fibromyaliga so this was good exercise to walk and take our time. Even a few practical jokes where played on each other along the way as well.
On the drive home we took a detour through New Ulm. This was another town I had never been to as well. It was a wonderful drive along the country side.
New Ulm is a German settle town. There, where miles and miles of Queen Victoria Area homes. The stain glass windows, design of each home was unique. There where no 2 homes alike. Many of the homes have been listed on the National Registry as historic landmarks. We took our time stopping frequently to stretch and walk along the sidewalks to get a good look at them. There where even a few city monuments we took in.
Time flew by so fast it had been several hours since lunch so astopped for an ice cream cone came at a good time. By the time we made it home nearly 8 hours had past.
It was an amazing day for me as I had experienced so many new items, exploreing new towns and traveled roads I had never been on before. I will cherish this day for many months to come. And suggest to many of you do the same don't just sit at home looking at 4 walls get out and experience life.
Quotes For The Day
Ex husbands are called Ex for a reason. Why call them anything else.
Marcia Chumbley
Marcia Chumbley
Monday, August 4, 2008
Quotes For The Day
Remember, Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but she did it backwards and in high heels.
Faith Whittlesey:
Faith Whittlesey:
Sunday, August 3, 2008
Quotes For The Day
If women are supposed to be less rational and more emotional at the beginning of our menstrual cycle when the female hormone is at its lowest level, then why isn't it logical to say that, in those few days, women behave the most like the way men behave all month long?
Gloria Steinem:
Gloria Steinem:
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Quotes For The Day
Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.
Katharine Hepburn:
Katharine Hepburn:
Friday, August 1, 2008
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Quotes For The Day,
You have to have funny faces and words, you can't just have words. It is a powerful thing, and I think that's why it's hard for people to imagine that women can do that, be that powerful.
Ellen DeGeneres
Ellen DeGeneres
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Quotes For The Day
Sometimes you can't see yourself clearly until you see yourself through the eyes of others.
Ellen DeGeneres
Ellen DeGeneres
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Girls Weekend-Retreat
Girls Weekend
This past weekend we had a "Girls Weekend". There was 6 of us we went to my cabin up north for some R and R. We had only 2 rules there was to be no talk of work/jobs or discussion of men/husbands or former husbands. There was no agenda of activities. The day and evenings where open to come and go do the things each one of us enjoyed.
Some of the actives we did was swimming, golfing, hiking, biking, miniature golf, bingo, dancing, drive in movies or just sit back have a glass of wine and read a good book. There was even discussion of faith and religion. Many paired of and did activities together. In the evening we had great discussions around the bon fire. Tried to solve many problems of the world. Reconnected as good friends. A few of us where scolded (myself included) for not staying connected or in communications with others.
I was soon forgiven, but looking back it was true I had lost contact with a couple of my friends. Mostly because of the controlling marriage I had been in. My ex husband had isolated me from these friends that are dear and wonderful people.
We have a span of over 20 plus years together. We had lived on the same street together, and some of us had worked together. We had been there over the years to watch our children grow, go off to college get married and the enjoyment of grandchildren. 2 of us had gone through a divorce, 1 had remarried, while others suffered and survived cancer. You might call us another version of "desperate housewives."
4 of us have lost our own mothers and we realized we are now the generation we had always envisioned our parents at. We all had empty nest homes. This was a good time in our lives we felt young vibrant. We laughed so much that we had tears of joy, there where giggles, humor, and good debates on different subjects.
When you get 6 women together there is always going to be room for good discussions. We each have our own opinions. And we all discovered many of us had change our opinions from what we believed 20 years ago.
All in all this was a great weekend and bonding. We reconnected as women, mothers, grandmothers and most of ALL GOOD FRIENDS
This past weekend we had a "Girls Weekend". There was 6 of us we went to my cabin up north for some R and R. We had only 2 rules there was to be no talk of work/jobs or discussion of men/husbands or former husbands. There was no agenda of activities. The day and evenings where open to come and go do the things each one of us enjoyed.
Some of the actives we did was swimming, golfing, hiking, biking, miniature golf, bingo, dancing, drive in movies or just sit back have a glass of wine and read a good book. There was even discussion of faith and religion. Many paired of and did activities together. In the evening we had great discussions around the bon fire. Tried to solve many problems of the world. Reconnected as good friends. A few of us where scolded (myself included) for not staying connected or in communications with others.
I was soon forgiven, but looking back it was true I had lost contact with a couple of my friends. Mostly because of the controlling marriage I had been in. My ex husband had isolated me from these friends that are dear and wonderful people.
We have a span of over 20 plus years together. We had lived on the same street together, and some of us had worked together. We had been there over the years to watch our children grow, go off to college get married and the enjoyment of grandchildren. 2 of us had gone through a divorce, 1 had remarried, while others suffered and survived cancer. You might call us another version of "desperate housewives."
4 of us have lost our own mothers and we realized we are now the generation we had always envisioned our parents at. We all had empty nest homes. This was a good time in our lives we felt young vibrant. We laughed so much that we had tears of joy, there where giggles, humor, and good debates on different subjects.
When you get 6 women together there is always going to be room for good discussions. We each have our own opinions. And we all discovered many of us had change our opinions from what we believed 20 years ago.
All in all this was a great weekend and bonding. We reconnected as women, mothers, grandmothers and most of ALL GOOD FRIENDS
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