Make Your Dream Home

Make your dream home
It's not the end of the world if you have to change houses. Know that you and your kids are going to create memories there and that's what makes it a dream home.

Make Time For Yourself

Make time for yourself
Make a priority to be a little selfish and do something just for yourself. The most important gift you can give your children is to take care of their parents. Try a new class, start exercising, or reconnect with an old hobby you've forgotten about.

Create A Support Squad

Create a support squad
Ask for help. People appreciate being asked for help. It's a gift to them to allow them to be there for you. Create a support squad of your closest friends who won't mind providing you with emotional support, professional guidance and ongoing inspiration. Realize that you're not the first person to go through this.

Get Your Resources and Assests Around You

Get your resources and assets around you
Do everything you can to program yourself for success. Find out what your strengths and skills are and focus on them to help move you in a new and positive direction. Everybody has a personal truth — what you believe about yourself when nobody's watching. Remember that you will create the results in life that you believe you deserve.

Make A Plan

Make a plan
Assess your situation financially, look at your resources to see what your options are in terms of housing, job and finances.

Talk To Your Kids

Talk to your kids
Divorce can create emotional wounds in children. Talk to them about what's going on, what they're feeling, and how things will get better. Involve them. If they know there are things they can do to help this transition, it will give them a feeling of power

Define a new relationship with your ex for your children

You've accepted it. Now it's time to jumpstart your life!

Define a new relationship with your ex for your children
Your old relationship was husband and wife, your new relationship is as common allies of your children.

Don't Waste Time With Regret

Don't waste time with regret
At some point you have to say, "It is what it is." You can't do anything about what you did before; but you can do a lot about what you're doing now.

Take the catastrophic language out of your mind

Take the catastrophic language out of your mind
"My life is over," "I've lost everything," and "Things are horrible" are labels that can have a powerful impact on how you feel. Recognize that it's factually not true. Your life isn't over, it's just a new beginning for you. Changing the negative tapes that run in your head can change how you physically feel.

There is life after this marriage

There is life after this marriage
As hard as it is to believe right now, one day this marriage will just be something you did once. You'll go on and you'll have what you create.

Clean House

A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.

Eight Things You Need to Know About Divorce and Marriage

Eight Things You Need to Know About Divorce and Marriage by
Laurie’s guest this week is Cynthia Rubin, family law attorney. Join them as they clink plastic glasses and have an honest conversation about divorce, the law, and how you can protect yourself before, during and after. Does the judge care about the cause of your divorce? Why getting support is so important. What to do if you are down and out, broke, and feeling trapped. And what makes for a good divorce? Read More

Don't burn daylight

Don't burn daylight
Grieving doesn't have a time frame on it, but life does. Whether you realize it or not, life is marching on. There comes a time when you have to accept the fact and say, "I've got to get on with my life, I've got to get on with raising my children, I've got to get on with putting things together where I can be a happy, meaningful, productive member of society." Find a way to put one foot in front of the other and move forward.

Nutty Maxine

A man without a women is a bachalor. A women without a man ia a genious.

Get out of denial

Get out of denial
Ask yourself: Do you really want this marriage, or are you hanging onto it out of fear? If being alone is a scarier thought than staying in a broken marriage, you're letting fear make your decisions. Are you mourning the loss of what your marriage was, or what you thought marriage would be?

Be an example for your children

Be an example for your children
What kind of mom do you think your kids are experiencing when you're sitting around and crying and looking over your shoulder at what was instead of what is?

Quotes For The Day,

Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.

Anais Nin:

A Day Of First's

Sundays can be the longest day if you are divorced or even widowed. Kids are grown, they live far away, they are visiting their fathers, or they are just busy with their own fa miles.

I never really understood this concept till it happened to me. Now I understood how my father felt after my mothers death. Don't get me wrong I called and spoke to my father each Sunday for sure along with other days of the week. But Sunday was eatch in stone I would either call him or he would call me. It seemed to make his day a bit easier and gave him something to look forward to as well each week.

This past Sunday a dear friend called and asked if I would like to go out for lunch to Old County Buffet in Mankato. I had never been there. So I was very excited to try something new. I also had never been to Mankato as well. So on the drive down it was great to see new country side, towns, and a bit of history. The drive took us along the Minnesota river. Some these towns had so many Queen Victoria homes dating back to the early 1800's.

After lunch we went to the mall. It felt good to get out a walk, window shop and visit along the way. Each of us suffer from fibromyaliga so this was good exercise to walk and take our time. Even a few practical jokes where played on each other along the way as well.

On the drive home we took a detour through New Ulm. This was another town I had never been to as well. It was a wonderful drive along the country side.

New Ulm is a German settle town. There, where miles and miles of Queen Victoria Area homes. The stain glass windows, design of each home was unique. There where no 2 homes alike. Many of the homes have been listed on the National Registry as historic landmarks. We took our time stopping frequently to stretch and walk along the sidewalks to get a good look at them. There where even a few city monuments we took in.

Time flew by so fast it had been several hours since lunch so astopped for an ice cream cone came at a good time. By the time we made it home nearly 8 hours had past.

It was an amazing day for me as I had experienced so many new items, exploreing new towns and traveled roads I had never been on before. I will cherish this day for many months to come. And suggest to many of you do the same don't just sit at home looking at 4 walls get out and experience life.

Quotes For The Day

Ex husbands are called Ex for a reason. Why call them anything else.

Marcia Chumbley

Quotes For The Day

Remember, Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but she did it backwards and in high heels.

Faith Whittlesey:

Quotes For The Day

If women are supposed to be less rational and more emotional at the beginning of our menstrual cycle when the female hormone is at its lowest level, then why isn't it logical to say that, in those few days, women behave the most like the way men behave all month long?

Gloria Steinem:

Quotes For The Day

Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.

Katharine Hepburn:

Quote For The Day

I am a woman above everything else.

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis: