It Happens When You Are Not Looking

You know the old saying you find love or meet someone when you least expect it or not really looking.

Over the past few weeks I have meet someone. It is a new adventure. I am excited at the same time reserved. I have been dating off an on over the past years since my divorce. I was beginning to think all men where cheaters, did not take care of themselves, or have all their teeth. Don't get me wrong they can have their teeth missing however, get some dentures. I have joked and started a E book on the 50 worst first dates. That is another subject.

I was learning about myself, what I wanted, needed and would not settle for. Have you heard we are like onions? When someone said that to me we have to talk about the onion I looked at them and said what? I like onions. No. she said it is about the layers of an onion and how we peel this onion.

Cleaning and eating your onion:

When you hold an onion in your hand you look at the outer lay that has to be cleaned.
This is the first step we peel of that paper skin on onions. Take a hard look at ourselves. Invest in you first

Once the paper layer is gone we look at the first layer. We reveal very few things about ourselves as we meet people. We are guarded we have to build a layer of trust. Once that layer has been reveled and stable we peel off another layer of our onion and reveal a bit more. With each layer we look ask ourselves do we like this onion and I want to continue or does it leave a nasty taste in our mouth or is it just plain rotten.

We never run into a relationship fast without reading the road map along the way or ask for directions and maintain our auto.

So back to it happens when we are not looking. In the age of PC's and internate dating I connected withsome one. Started out several weeks with emails and telephone conversations. They we decided to meet for a soda in a common public place. There was a bit fear. However, unless we take a chance we may never know what we might miss in life. Besides, what have we lost a few hours drinking a soda.

I have to say my meeting was very good. No lack of conversation for both of us. He then asked me out for the following weekend which was a good feeling. A gentleman for sure.

Our first date we had to cancel due to weather. However, it did happen. He arrived with a flower and gift for me. I was taken back on the gift it was beautiful and I was not sure how to respond. It was a charm necklace. The charms where of all the possiblites of the future. It was sweet. The date ended with great conversations and the ackward goodbye. Will he kiss me or not. Well the answer is yes he did.

I will keep you updated in Jan or Feb on the progress of this relationship. Like they say It happens when you are not looking. We shall see where this goes and the as the charm was for the future possibilites.